Has anyone ever watched the show "My Mom is Obsessed?" This show is nuts.
Each episode there are different women with different "obsession." I caught one episode of a woman obsessed with weight. A woman being obsessed with her weight (especially in today's society) is completely normal. BUT this woman's obsession was on another level:
*She weighed her self every-single-morning.
*Works about every-single-day for at least two - three hours.
She also obsesses about her daughters weight in fear that she will gain weight when she gets older. Everyone gains weight as they get older. This lady "blames" her weight issues on when she had her first pregnancy she gained 50 lbs. Totally normal. Maybe 50 lbs. was more than her doctor suggested, but still normal. She is so paranoid about her daughters potential weight gain that she:
*Makes her daughter call her at lunch every-single-day so she can tell her the options the school is providing so she can tell her what she is allowed to eat and what she is not allowed.
*Lectures her daughter when she eats anything that she does not give her permission to eat.
*Grounds her daughter if she goes out for pizza (or any other place that involves food) with her friends.
*On occasion weighs her daughter if she feels like she has eaten things behind her back or hasn't felt comfortable with her meal choices that week.
I'm serious - this show is nuts!...impartially this lady!
I just don't understand how this lady really thought she was "helping" her daughter prevent future "weight issues" by being so critical of her. It was more like she was preparing her for her future eating disorder and self-conscious body images.
Our job as parents - especially mother's to young girls - are to empower them.
To brush their hair, when they are 4 years old, and them how beautiful they are just the way they are...
To remind them, when they are 13 years old, that all girls go through that weird phase when we gain weight, change shapes, and feel awkward...
To set an example, when they are 17 years old, and teach them to dress modestly. (Cor. 6:19-20)
...so on and so forth.
You see where I'm going here.
"The goal of this command is love, which comes from a pure heart and good conscience and a sincere faith"
1 Timothy 1:5 NIV
Haddles is so lucky to have a mom with such a great understanding of body image and self-esteem. :) love this pay and the message you're sending to every woman who reads it.
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